Picture this. You've had a record few months - hit every target, pulled off a project that made your boss look great at the board meeting, and somehow also became the unofficial office therapist for two colleagues going through tough times. Your male colleague, Jake, had a decent year. Fine. Nothing spectacular. But Jake did ask for a raise in October. You didn't, because the timing felt off, because you didn't want to seem ungrateful, because you thought your results would s